“The average American now consumes about 2,375 calories per day, about a third more than in the ’70s.” – Time Magazine
Snacking
Two articles may help you understand why so many of us are overweight and why it’s tough to lose the fat.  First, Time Magazine gives us Snack Attack!  Americans Are Eating More Between Meals.  The information here comes from a recent study on Americans’ eating habits over the past 30 years.  Among the findings:
“Analyzing data from four nutritional surveys conducted between 1977 and  2006 by the U.S. Department of Agriculture and the Centers for Disease  Control and Prevention, the study found that Americans went from eating  an average 3.8 meals and snacks a day to 4.9 a day over the last three  decades — a 29% increase. The average American now consumes about 2,375  calories per day, about a third more than in the ’70s.”
A lot of this makes sense.  Look at our opportunities to eat (another factor examined in the study).  We’ve had food in the grocery store checkout for years but now we’ve got food at the Bed Bath & Beyond!  I can get candy at Home Depot!  I can remember when gas stations had a gumball machine and a cigarette machines–and that was it.  Now the average gas station is packed to the gills with weird, low-nutrition/high calorie snack food.  Garbage is everywhere and we’re eating it.
Your Brain on Weight Loss
The Huffington Post gives us Weight Loss Psychology: Why Your Brain Might Be Holding You Back.  I love this stuff because I’m fascinated by brain function especially at it pertains to exercise.  Anyone who’s tried to lose weight has discovered several things.  First, everyone knows how to do it: Eat less.  Exercise more.  Easy?  No way!  The other thing we’ve all learned is that though weight loss is easy in concept, it’s diabolically difficult to pull off.  There’s way more than a simple desire to lose weight.  Our short-term pleasure typically wins out over our long-term healthy goals.  I like this description of the struggle:
“What drives our behavior is not logic but brain biochemistry, habits and  addiction, states of consciousness and what we see people around us  doing. We are emotional beings with the ability to rationalize — not  rational beings with emotions. If we are stressed, depressed or  addicted, no matter how good the advice we are given, chances are that  we will not be able to act on it. The more primitive, emotional brain  generally has precedence over the newer, more rational brain.”
The article also gives suggestions to help address weight loss:
1.) Focus on a change of heart, not a change of mind. Losing weight through changing what and how much you eat doesn’t happen  because you rationally decide to lose weight. You have to have a change  of heart; that is, you must get in touch with your deepest, heartfelt  desires.Your motivation may not be positive. Indeed, it may stem from a fear  of loss. For example, you may not want to get sick. Or you may not want  to be ostracized. To get in touch with your motivation, think about the  negative consequences of not changing as well as the positive ones.  Getting fit must become a priority and your life must be organized  accordingly. Nobody can change you but you, and once you’ve made the  changes, you need to stay focused. Successful individuals keep their  motivation in the forefront of their minds all the time.
2.) Practice self-discipline. Self-control is a  muscle that, like other muscles, needs exercise and strengthening.  Change doesn’t happen because you want it to happen. Each time you  resist temptation, you are developing greater self-control. Success  breeds success. Facing down temptations builds strength for future  decision moments. Some of my clients throw away their favorite food as a  symbolic act that shows they have control over the food and not the  other way round.
Self-discipline is required for behavior change, but does that mean  that the lack of self-discipline causes obesity? No. That would be like  saying aspirin helps a headache go away, so headaches are caused by a  lack of aspirin — which is nonsense!
3.) Eliminate or reduce sugary, fat-laden foods. Such foods create physical changes at a cellular level that alter how  our brains and bodies react. When analyzing your level of addiction,  consider both physical dependence (changes at the cellular level) and  psychological dependence (the habitual repetition of a behavior in an  attempt to satisfy an emotional need). For example, how often do you use  a sugary treat to lift your spirits?
What is often misunderstood is that these dependences exist on a  continuum. You can be mildly, moderately or severely dependent, and the  degree of dependence determines how difficult it will be to change.
4.) Make history your teacher, not your jailer. You  can learn from your mistakes. Instead of [beating yourself up] when you  fail to keep your promises to yourself, seek to gain self-knowledge so  you won’t repeat the error. No one is perfect. Be sure to acknowledge  what you are doing right, not just what isn’t working.
5.) Surround yourself with friends, family and colleagues who will support your effort. Getting  fit and losing weight absolutely require others. Although you alone can  make the changes you need to make, you can’t make the changes alone.  Not only in terms of eating, but in all areas of our lives, we are much  more influenced by other people than we imagine. One of the most potent  forces for positive change is the emotional support of the individuals  who surround you.
You must, however, ask for the support you need. Don’t assume that  others know what would be most helpful to you. Similarly, you need to  avoid those people who aren’t on the same page as you. Social pressure  can work for you or against you. Hang out with the right people.